How to overcome deep, intense emotions and heal

Heal-emotions-now-heart-meditationDo you often struggle with too many thoughts and feelings and have difficulty to relax? Or is your mind constantly bombarded with a lot of concerns, fears and phobias about various people and situations or sometimes about future?

Are you one of the persons who had gone through heart-break or severe disappointment several times and have lost trust in life?

You are not alone!

6 years ago, I had suffered anxiety, self-sabotaging habits and was on verge of developing chronic fatigue syndrome. Pain was too much to bear. There was a constant ‘get well now or be gone’  thought in my head.

It started effecting my health and relationships. That time, I decided to put aside my busy schedule and serve much of my time in meditation and healing for next few months or until I feel lighter and relaxed. I did. I worked intensely on myself using various modalities (both ancient and latest neuroscience) such as PSYCH-K, NLP, Reiki, EFT, Hypnosis, and Heart Meditation. It took me some time and I totally came out of that anxiety, disappointment, self-sabotaging behavior and lack of energy pattern.

Later, I was internally, passionately driven to help others who are suffering from similar problems. So, I became a professional mindfulness trainer and emotional wellness coach.

After working with a few hundreds of people online and face-to-face, I realized that the problem I suffered was not only in me, it is there in every human being with various degrees, forms, modes and signatures. The basic problem is same in all of us i-e separation from our true self. Everything else is an extension of it.

Petty as well as big problems we see in ourselves and others are simply symptoms to an underlying disease of separation from whole.

As we begin to meditate with a burning desire to find emotional and intellectual freedom, we allow new doors of silence and wisdom to open in our lives, filling more joy and ecstasy like never before.

What blocks us from living in the joy and freedom? And how to overcome such blocks?

Dr Candace Pert, Ph.D., who authored bestseller ‘Molecules of Emotions’ writes that our subconscious mind where our memories and experiences are stored is so much embedded in our physical body that they both act as one unit. Unlike traditional belief that mind is in the brain, Dr Pert found that mind is the information in form of bio-photons emitting from tissues. Your body is your subconscious mind or vice versa.

We can observe the same practically in mindfulness meditation. Sit silently with eyes closes. Look at different thoughts and feelings in your mind, one after the other. Now notice sensations in different parts of your body. See how, with each changing thought and feeling, the sensations shifts. In state of anxiety, your body goes through certain sensations around your heart and facial muscles. In anger, there is more wild energy in your hands, jaw and chest. While in joy, one breathes slowly and a fresh over flowing of energy can be felt all over your being.

This is one of the reasons why ancient Indians emphasized on breathing exercises. With slow and deep breathing in right way, various sensations and rush of energy in body calms down and one feels peaceful and relaxed. Deep slow breathing changes the state of your mind and body to optimal.

Too many thoughts and emotions keep you away from the whole

With a right mindfulness and/or breathing exercise every day, intensity of negative energy from body is slowly transformed into peace and silence.

How to do mindfulness to release unwanted thoughts and feelings?

Step 1. Find a private space. It could be your bedroom, hall or a park where you won’t be disturbed for 10—15 minutes. Sit on a chair or floor.

Step 2. Close your eyes and cross your left ankle over right ankle and your left wrist over right wrist as seen in image below. This is the Whole Brain State. This creates an integration between left and right brain hemispheres of your brain. Neuroscientists say this is ideal state for making a new change at mental, emotional or behavioral level. Brain has exponentially greater resource unlike ordinary state where left hemisphere is dominant and resists new change.

Step 3. Once you have closed eyes and crossed ankles and wrists as guided in step 2, now take 3-5 slow and deep breaths to settle your awareness within.

Step 4. Look at different thoughts, feelings, images, voices rushing your head in this moment. It could be anger on your boss or partner, sadness because things haven’t been the way you wanted, it could be a fear of illness or failure or financial insecurity.

Take note of one pressing situation. You observe and feel the emotions attached with it. Identify emotion. “Ok, I am feeling anger in my body right now”.

Step 5. Once identified a pressing emotion or situation in your being in the moment, stay with it. Be mindful about how it is reacting inside your mind and body. May be a part in you wants to lambaste on the other or maybe you sabotage yourself for failure in life.  Or there could an anxiety about one or more things you haven’t been able to fix.

Whatever it is, your job right now is to observe and stay with it. Don’t run away from it. Don’t resist it. Be totally open and vulnerable to it. Feel the feelings for 5-10 minutes.

“Wound is a place where light enters” -- Rumi

Step 6. Open your eyes and stay focused on your heart area or heart beat 2-3 minutes to process the new change. That’s it.

One of the limited understanding we acquired in childhood is to ignore the negative feeling and do something to feel good. Example: “You are a man. Man doesn’t cry” or “Don’t be weak. You are strong enough. Cheer up!”.

This is where we miss!

One of the revolutionary finding of renowned psychoanalyst Carl G. Jung is to shower the light of consciousness over the darkness. He says, “What you resist, it persists. What you look after, it disappears”

Our attitude of running away from painful experiences has not helped us much. Unknowing, we feed them instead.

When you look into something, it can’t stay for long. It is bound to disappear. For example, if you do above guided meditation step by step for anger problem, you will notice that in 10-15 minutes, the intensity of anger has gone down or it has disappeared, giving you an impression as if it was not there on the first hand. A relaxation follows.

Doing this meditation everyday twice a day stimulates dormant areas in your brain, makes you more creative, increases your problem-solving capability and most importantly, it shifts your consciousness in the present moment. More silence, trust, compassion and forgiveness will take roots in your attitude spontaneously. This will eventually lead to Samadhi or enlightenment.

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